Deen · Reflections

Friendship with Non-Muslims

Assalamu alaikum warahmatuLlahi wabarakatuHu!
So I’ve been AWOL for a while now 😦

Anyway, enjoy 👇

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the Christians as Awliyaa’ (friends, protectors, helpers), they are but Awliyaa’ of each other. And if any amongst you takes them (as Awliyaa’), then surely, he is one of them. Verily, Allaah guides not those people who are the Zaalimoon (polytheists and wrongdoers and unjust)”
[al-Maa’idah 5:51]
Allah also tells us :

“Let not the believers take the disbelievers as Awliyaa’ (supporters, helpers) instead of the believers, and whoever does that, will never be helped by Allaah in any way, except if you indeed fear a danger from them”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:28]

These verses show that it is clearly not allowed for us to take non-Muslims as friends.

You might be thinking “That’s too extreme ” but this isn’t just me talking.
The evidences from the Quran should be enough.
It is not permissible for a Muslim to feel any love in his heart towards the enemies of Allaah who are in fact his enemies too.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Take not My enemies and your enemies (i.e. disbelievers and polytheists) as friends, showing affection towards them, while they have disbelieved in what has come to you of the truth”
[al-Mumtahanah 60:1]
The only exceptions to this are :

1. Fear of being harmed by them

2. To do dawah i.e call them to the path of Islam.
Now that you do know you shouldn’t have non-Muslim friends, what next?
Are you thinking, “But they are my only friends ” , “we’ve been best friends since forever “, “How can I stop being friends with them? ”
Remember, they will never ever truly love you until you join their religion and if they actually truly like you, it means you aren’t practicing your deen correctly.
I’m sorry if you feel offended but that’s just the plain truth. No sugarcoating here.
As a female, do you wear the proper hijab? Don’t backbite? Lower your gaze? Don’t waste time talking about the opposite sex, movies? Don’t listen to music? Let your salah come first? Speak good or keep quiet?

As a male, do you lower your gaze? Avoid zina ? Keep your beard? ( and not just because it’s cool or the “in thing”) , Pray salah on time? , Don’t go for parties? , Keep your trousers above your ankles (again, not because it’s fashion) ?
Just generally follow the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad ?
Chances are you don’t do all these and that alone says something – you need to start taking your deen seriously.
Remember that death, the destroyer of Pleasures, knows no age.
I’ll end this with a personal story of a girl-friend.
We met in js3 but became intimate in ss1 . We never fought. We understood each other perfectly. We were the best of friends. Until an incident brought me back to Islam. That’s when the problems started. I couldn’t talk about boys, music and just gossip with her any more. But because I loved her (we’d gone through a lot together), I really tried to make it work. I’d go out of my way to talk to her, keeping the topics generic. After a while, I just gave up and we stopped talking all together.
Then one day I messaged her and the ugly truth reared its head. That was when I knew how much she hated my hijab and disliked the fact I didn’t appreciate her having a boyfriend etc. The conversation turned into a fight and our friendship ended like that. 3 years of friendship couldn’t even stand an hour against religion.
I don’t want to bore you with the details but I just want you to learn what I’ve learnt from it. You can never truly be friends with non-muslims Even Allah has said that.
Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.”
Source: Sunan Abu Dawud 4833
On the authority of Abu Musa al-Ash’ari (radiAllahu anhu), the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said:
“The likeness of a righteous friend and an evil friend, is the likeness of a (musk) perfume seller and a blacksmith. As for the perfume seller, he may either bestow something on you, or you may purchase something from him, or you may benefit from his sweet smell. And as for the blacksmith, he may either burn your clothes, or you may be exposed to his awful smell.”
[Bukhari and Muslim]
The importance of good friends cannot be overemphasized ‼
May Allah make it easy for us to obey him and may He grant us good friends that’ll benefit us in this world and the next.


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